My fiance has gained a little weight and i dont know how to tell her or let her know that she needs to lose a few pounds. See she used to be balemic (i spelled wrond i know) and im afraid if i hint at anything then she will get right back into it. what should i do??
Ok so I know that alot of girls go through bad relationships and that these can cause them to view guys differently; that they wont get close to another guy for however long. But what about when that special guy comes along? I have recently met a girl who I can honestly say I think I've been looking for my whole life. I never really go for a girl 100% if I don't know that I really like her. A little background, im a 19 yr old sophomore in college and I've never really had a REAL relationship, nothing major or anything that went anywhere.
I met her at this party where she asked me for my number (much to my surprise) and we talked NONSTOP for about two weeks it was ridiculous, stayin up til 5 a couple mornings talking about everything from past relationships to oldschool tv shows.
But then a couple times when I opened up at a little and she always replies with something along the lines with "im sorry i dont like you like that" or "We're friends, but thats all we'll ever be" which honestly hurt me to death I thought we had something so special. Last summer before college (she's a freshman) she went out with a guy and she told me everything was so perfect, that he said all these things that she believed; she honestly thought they would live happily ever after. I'm also assuming she lost her virginity to him because she was so crushed when he dumped her for his ex. He called her up the day before they were going to meet up again as he was in Florida, the day before their two month ani, and dumped her. She was so crushed she collapsed in the street running to her best friend's house.
I know for a fact she's built up a wall to keep out guys so she won't ever get hurt again but I know that she's honestly unhappy with the wall she's put up. Im very positive we both know we've found something special but she's just afraid of getting close again (she's told me all of this, she also said im the only person she's ever told in such detail to).
So what I'm just trying to figure out what the best way is to help her take down her wall (if she honestly wants to). Do i just sit on the sidelines and be the good friend and wait for her to figure stuff out on her own? Honestly I could wait forever if I honestly knew she'd eventually want to try things but she always clams shut every time i mention any kind of future more than friendship with her.
I am a 30 year old male with the username pret_23 and I want to say ...
when I was 11 I was sexually molested by my neighbour. when i turned 14 i was involved with a 10 yr old girl (not sexual) but we used to hug and kiss a lot.At that age i swear i did not know it was wrong.I feel terrible now for doing that.
when i was in my college i fell in love with my close friend.Even she felt the same.One day she proposed me and we landed having sex almost every week.
After graduation one day for no reason she left saying "she does not love me any more and she is in love with another guy".We did not have misunderstanding or fight or anything of that sort .I felt terrible.I went into depression.It took me lot of time for me to come out of it .I decided not to date any girl and concentrate on my studies and joined masters program ..
During my second yr of my masters program I started to have feeligs for my close friend and bcoz of my past i kept everything inside one day while doing night studies one thing let to naother and we landed in having oral sex.She said she wanted to be virgin till marriage..so i dont forve her .So we continued to have oral sex for two yrs and during that time i told her that I have feelings for her and really love her ....She did not say anything .I thought even she had the same feeling and she was taking time to commit.
Last month she told me she is going to get married to another guy and she jus want to be friends. Iam feeling terrible .I really could not see her as my friend .when ever I see her with the person she is going to get married I feel worth less. I really feel terrible.I must admit the guy she is in love is really a good guy,they both are very compatable, well educated,rich what all you can ask in a man,he has got it.I really dont know why all these happened
We really did not have any problem and was very compatable in all aspects.Iam finding it difficult to move on with my life.Jus crying for her everyday..............
Okay, here goes. I'm 33. I work with a girl who is 19 [she turns 20 in a month or so]. To get it out of the way, yes she's hot. Way hot. But there's more to her than that. She puts on this "party girl" image but I know for a fact she's an active Christian in her church. She hides this from people. She puts on this total vapid party girl front [and lives it to to some degree] but she has been on missions for her church etc.
Anyway, we're friendly at work. Talk quite a bit. I'm pretty confident that she finds me attractive. That's not to say she's interested in me per say, but I'm fairly certain she's finds me physically attractive and I'm a clean-cut, nice guy [doesn't drink etc] and she says constantly that's the type she likes [in spite of her party girl persona]. I think if not for the age thing, we might've gone out already. I think the age thing has held her back. I sense it's like she won't even let herself go there. She gives me signals that suggest "I find you attractive" and "You're the type of guy I like to date" but it's almost like there's a wall up that says "but the age difference is too much.".
She recently had a bad experience with an older guy she met [not awful by any means, but it didn't pan out]. Now she may have soured on the idea, thus closing the door for me.
I really like this girl and see so much more in her than she probably knows is there. Any advice? Should I go for it? Forget the idea totally? How should I go about this? How do I find out what her feelings are about me without coming right out and asking her?
I have a hard time with women because I'm always told I look about 24-25 all the time. So, I think this keeps women my own age from approaching me and when I meet a younger girl [under 25] it's usually a surprise when I tell them and throws them off [and I can't say I blame them]. I don't like the club/bar scene anyway, but it's useless because of those reasons. I just know when I tell any woman my age it's like "Game over". BTW, I don't make it a habit to chase much younger women. Typically I wouldn't even date someone under 22. This is a special exception.
There's what your brain tells you and what your heart tells you. I'm just confused here. Any sincere advice would be appreciated - Thanks :D
I have a question that I would like women who are in college or in their twenties to answer for me. Why is it that women in college go for the guys who party and think that school is a joke? Why do they go after the guys that their only ambitions are to see if they can get more drunk than the night before without passing out? I really don't understand this. Every girl that I have tried for since I have been in college has wanted nothing more to do with me except to have me there when the other assholes here treat them like ****. I am a nice guy. I treat women with respect. I have ambition to do well in school, in sports, in my career after school, and in life in general, but every time I go after a girl I like I get turned down. I mean I am not a big partier but I do go out every once in awhile and have a couple drinks. I like to hang out with my friends whenever I can. I really don't get why I can't get a girl that I want. Please offer any answers and/or advice you may have for me. Thanks.
I am a guy in college who is pretty well known. In high school, I was an athlete and was well known in my hometown. I will admit I was pretty shy in high school, but have improved tremendously since coming to college. I am told that I am good looking by girls and am told by my close female friends often that girls they know, that I don't, think so too. I also hear all the time from girls and my female friends that they think I am such a nice guy. My problem seems to be that whenever I try to get a girl that I want, I always get the "I think we would be better off just being friends." Now, this happened in high school as well. I would be told by the type of girls that I wanted to date, the beautiful, smart, athletic, outgoing types, all the time, "You're such a nice guy," and "Never change." Well, I will admit I haven't changed a whole lot since high school, I am in my third year of college now, and I am starting to wonder why I shouldn't change. It seems to me that the assholes and jerks, around campus are the guys getting the types of girls I try for unsuccessfully. I would like to hear some advice and answers from girls. What's the deal? I would like to know why girls tell me all this stuff about me being nice and to never change, but then when I go to ask them out I always get the "I think we would be better just being friends," speech. What am I doing wrong? What should I be doing to be able to get the types of girls I want? I am honestly and totally confused about this and would really like some answers and advice. Thanks.
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