so. theres this guy. only thing i can think of most of the time. once upon a time we had a thing. but he engaged this girl he used to go out with shortly after. im most positive he got back with her because im not sexually active, and wasnt when we had a relationship. now hes grown up some and has made contact with me, and seems to want to talk to me. he told me to stop by his work.. i did. with some of my friends, so we couldnt be as frank as i might have wanted to be with him. anyways. while we talked i told him about my plans to move to another state... and he told me he didnt want me to move, and he'd rather pay for an apartment for me before i move. again keep in mind he is engaged. or so im pretty sure he is. he talks to me of times when we had fun while we were together. even intimate times. anyways i go to his work the next day and leave a note for him. leaving no name, just an inside joke between me and him... and my number. he calls me the next morning. but i didnt catch the call. im going to stop by his work in a couple of days, and i just want to know what to expect. does he still think of me? is he still engaged? i mean when i went to his work, while my friends were aimlessly talking to each other, we stared at each other like we used to. just like we used to. what does he want. i dont want to make a fool of myself if i talk to him about it...
well i am engaged to this wonderful guy and i love him to death. but i am still in love with my ex boyfriend.. and i talk to my ex ever night and i see him every day. and we hang out a lot. what should i do i need help i can figure out what i want in life???
see theres this guy that really liked me at first and he asked me out ...i said no cuz i didnt even know his name. than i realized 3 months later wen i found his myspace that i really liked him...i told him and he didnt talk to me at first...after we started talking for a while i asked him out he said he didnt know me good enough..so i said after we get to know each other...he said okay....2 weeks later i was talking to him before i left and asked him y he doesnt talk that much and he said it was cuz he loves the pickles (he is gay) but i dont believe him...and none of my friends do either.....i dont know wat to do about him...he wont talk to me anymore please help my sn is soccergurl8535
I LIKE THIS GUY BUT HE'S A LITTLE BIT OUT OF MY LEAGUE. SOMETIMES I HAVE A FEELING HE'S LOOKING AT ME. BUT I MIGHT BE GETTING MIXED SIGNALS. I'M NOT SURE WHAT TO DO CAUSE I FEEL LIKE IF I TELL HIM HOW I FEEL HE'S GOING TO LAUGH AT ME. WHAT SHOULD I DO. HE'S REALLY SEXY AND CUTE. TALL, LIGHT SKIN, AND JUST REALLY REALLY SEXY. I'VE LIKED HIM SINCE LAST SCHOOL YEAR AND NOW HE'S GOT TWO CLASSES AND HOMEROOM WITH ME. I TRY NOT TO LOOK AT HIM SO HE DOESN'T KNOW THAT I LIKE HIM. BECAUSE I DON'T WANT PEOPLE ASKING HIM QUESTIONS. PLEASE HELP ME, WHAT DO I DO.
Okay here's my story:
Scott is 15 and I'm 18, but he's very mature for his age. He and I started talking when I was 17 and I just recently turned 18. Scott and I used to go to the same school before he got transfered, but before he got transfered I used to catch him staring at me and I could tell he wanted to talk to me. A few weeks after he got transfered I found him on myspace and we started talking and chatting and we would talk on the phone for hours and hours late at night talking about anything and everything. He decided he wanted to see me in person and even though he knew how I looked like because he and I went to the same school, I was still afraid he would be disapointed. He kept pushing and pushing and he kept saying how much he wanted to see me so I decided I'd see him and just get it over with. Well he and I decided to meet at the school and when I showed up he looked disapointed like I thought he would, which totally shocked me cause he always told me I was pretty. we had nothing to talk about which was totally strange since we spent hours on the phone all the time and I could tell he wanted to leave. We hung out anyway and even though sometimes he seemed really into me he also seemed really disapointed. At the end of the day he ended up kissing me and that really changed my perspective. When I got home AJ was logged on to Myspace IM so I sent him an IM but the words he used to reply to me made it seem like he didn't like me so I didn't call him. After that day I had low self esteem for a long time, I didn't talk to other guys cause I thought I wasn't good enough and I would cry myself to sleep. Weeks after that day he logged on to myspace IM and I said hi to him, he told me that he couldn't talk cause his computer kept freezing and that I should call him, but then I told him that I didn't have his number any more and that he should call me, so he called me later that night and we talked for hours and hours and he told me that he still likes me and the other day he told me that he really cares about me and that he loves me, he told me that he was so mad that I didn't call him all those times. He and I have been talking again for about two weeks and now he wants to see me again, he keeps pushing and pushing and I'm running out of excuses. I don't want the same thing to repeat it self. What do I do? Should I see him again
"Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worst kind of suffering." - Paul Coelho
I've heard that regret is one of the worst things to experience. I have a major regret. I met this boy, we hit it off well. We would talk forever on the phone before I came to college. Very smart, very funny, and ambitious. I really liked him, even though I played it cool. His best friend at the time told me that the boy told him that he "wanted to see where things would go" with me and "hopefully make her my gf." Obviously I wouldn't be writing this is if the boy was my boyfriend. The boy was so excited for me to come to college with him, and I was too, not gonna lie. Things were going great for the first two weeks of school. I went over one day and cuddled all afternoon with him. It was amazing! :) One night at a party at the boy's apartment (he lived with his best friend) on September 15, my debit card got stolen without me noticing. I didn't figure it out until a few days later when I went to pay for something and about 40 dollars and my debit card were missing. I got about 700 dollars charged to my account, which I share with my mom.
That same night, my "friend" started flirting with the boy, even though she knew how much I liked him. I got mad and walked back to the dorms by myself at 3am. She spent the night with him. When I asked her what happened, she says they cuddled and that he tried to kiss her. When I asked him what happened, he said "nothing." I honestly don't know who to believe. The girl was obviously trying to compete with me in some weird way (she'd constantly ask me about if I had heard from him recently, because she had.) I tried to avoid her, but we live in the same hall. She'd ask me about him and would genereally be kinda snotty. Even to the point of insulting my best friend on the mere basis that he was gay.
Turns out that the boy's best friend stole my debit card. The boy convinced me not to press charges against his best friend, who has a cocaine addiction. In turn, he would pay me the money then, and his best friend would reimburse him later. So on his birthday (September 23), the boy gave me 650 dollars. I didn't really talk to him again after that. Not gonna lie, I missed him alot. I was really hurt that he'd even flirt with someone who was supposed to be my best friend. I felt like he led me on. The girl apologized, but it didn't really mean anything.
After that, I hounded the boy all of October for the rest of the money that he owed me. It was only about 200 dollars to cover the bank fees for the overdrafts, but it's still a lot of money for a poor college student like myself. I called him so much. After a while he didn't answer and I left like a million voicemails. I felt so bad leaving all those messages. It was bad timing. His grandmother had a stroke, survived, had another stroke, and then died around the last week of October. He then moved out of his apartment and moved back home. So he wasn't even in the city anymore. He and his best friend had a really bad fight before they both moved out. The boy's best friend stole DVDs and posters and clothes from him, over 3,000 dollars worth of stuff. Obviously my 200 dollars is pretty trivial compared to that. The boy never returned any of my facebook messages or my calls. I never got the rest of the money, but I guess I can let that go.
I guess the advice that I need is on how to talk to him again. The last time that I talked to him was around the middle of November for like 45 minutes. He sent me a text message to see if I was awake, and then he called me. It was really nice. It made me realize just how much I had missed him. How much I wanted him again. After the whole situation with the girl happened, I invited him to see a movie with him. I called him when he was drinking. The following day when I called like an hour before showtime, he didn't even answer. I never went to the movie. It hurt a lot. He called me back a few days later, asked me if I had seen the movie, talked for a bit and then said he'd call me again on the weekend. I was still kinda pissed, so I answered back in a really snotty way. And I completely regret that now. I really do. I was looking through some of his pictures on his facebook, and he's got his arm around this girl that he works with and she's leaning into him. And in the other picture, she's got her arm around him... and he looks happy. And part of me is happy for him... but part of me just aches soooo bad. To tell the truth, I felt kinda sick when I saw those pictures. I don't know if its the same girl, a girl by the name of Nicole who's a freshman at nearby community college commented on his facebook wall. "Hope you had a wonderful Christmas hun .. hope to see you around more!" Ummm yeah. What the hell am I supposed to think of that? I'm a little bit jealous. A lot actually, I'm not gonna lie.
I have no idea what to do. Just forget about him and move on? Or try and talk to him again without mentioning the 200 dollars? It doesn't really help that I've called him a few times, drunk, and left random *** messages that I don't even remember. I'd like another chance to make things good with the boy, but I don't even know where to begin. Do I send him a text message? Do I just call him and hope that he answers? What if I call and he's in class or at work and I have to leave ANOTHER voicemail? What if he just really likes the girl in the picture? I mean I poked around and found another picture through a mutual friend's facebook where she's drinking a beer and leaning up against this guy who's got his arms around her. So is she just easy or what? I don't think the girl who left the comment is the same girl who's in the picture. They look similiar... Same dark straight hair. Same length. Both tan. But their faces are different. Either way, he's got a girl who obviously diggs him.
I just don't know how to approach this situation. I don't want to come off as needy or anything, but I haven't talked to him in forever. I'm not really the mushy type of person. Any ideas???
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