My bestfriend and I have known each other since 3rd grade,we've been through alot together. Over the summer I started dating a guy I met out on vacation,a few months later he proposed to me. Ofcorse I said yes, but before I made anything official I asked my friend if it was the right thing to do, thats when she told me. When I go to work in morning and sometimes at night he comes over her house so they can have sex. Also she was preganat(I always wondered how she got preganat with no man)with his baby. I couldnt belive it. When I confronted him he said it wasnt true. Who am I supposed to belive! and how am I going to chose between my bestfriend and my husband?
i have known a guy since 2nd grade and now i think i love him. i just want to be with him so bad. i just want to hold hands, kiss him, hug him, look into his eyes. everytime i see him, i freeze, i get so nervous, but one of these days i just want to tell him. i've been trying to give him smallish hints sort of but he don't do anything. i don't know if he even likes me. everyone thinks he does. i don't know if i can wait much longer to keep all these emotions in. i thought about writing him and asking him out, but i dont know if i can. I can talk to him like crazy on email, but once i see him in person, i can't even say one word or look him in the eyes. what should i do? it's killing me to keep this in! if i wait much longer i think i'm going to explode!
It seems to me that women are addicted to assholes. The only reasons I can see for this is women want to change or help these men become something better. Or they feel a need to be with one they percive is an "Alpha Male." I have had a few relationships where I have played different rolls i.e. The *******, The Pervert, and The Good guy. And my findings are that The ******* is always the Favorite with women. As The Pervert(which was 2nd) They still wanted to fix me but in the end they ether gave up or were twisted by my personality. And in 3rd the "good guy" he was fun, listened to them, bought them nice things, wrote them poetry but no matter what he did they left and they left fast. In most cases they stuck it out for 3 to 6 months and then they were all nice guy-ed out. The *******, I still can't believe it, no matter what I did as the ******* which was everything short of violence they kept trying to "save" me. I would lie to them. I would cheat on them. I would make fun of them in public around friends. They stuck with me for 2 years. In the end they listened to friends which is intresting because their friends dated the same kind of assholes and in some cases worse to the point of hitting. In my opinion women need to learn that all men do not change for the woman's sake but only if they see that they need to change.
I would imagine that they call them 'crushes' because normally, when you have a crush on someone they do not have a crush back on you, hence leaving you crushed.
Soul mates. The belief that there is someone out there that completes you. Your Prince Charming. The person that can fill all your heart's desires. The one individual that you find a true connection with; that you are able to express yourself to deeply (even without words).
Do these people truly exist? Or are they just love myths?
I think that most of us like to believe in the fact that we can find someone who will understand us without trying. I know I do. I'm a hopeless romantic who always falls for the nice guys. And every time I fall for one, I hold on to the hope that he might be the one. Not necessarily my soul mate, for that would probably be difficult to find as a student in high school, but at least someone that I can have a true connection with.
So why are soul mates so hard to find? Or are they not hard to find, and it's just that we don't know how to truly look?
Do we sometimes overlook them in the rush of everyday life? Should we spend more time seeing people for what they would be instead of what they are?
Does each person only have one soul mate? Or are there multiple people who have the possiblity of giving us that deeper connection?
Lastly, can soul mates be something other than the husband/wife/boyfriend/ girlfriend types? Is it possible to have a soul mate who's just a friend?
I like to think that soul mates are so hard to find because we need to truly appreciate them by the time we find them. So on the way to finding them, we face road blocks and obstacles that test our will/worthiness.
But I also think that sometimes people don't know how to recognize their soul mates. Sometimes people are so obessed with materialism of our society that they don't take the time to stop and pay attention.
I like to ponder the possibility of having more than one soul mate. If you think about it, a soul mate is a person that you can learn the most from. Someone who can teach you about life and love in a way that no one else can. (And not precisely or always in a positive way.) So it makes sense that more than one of these people would exist for each person. That way, with each of them that we meet, we grow as people. We change. They help us become who we are meant to be.
We may not always like the change they bring, we may even be hurt by it, but we learn to deal with it. We accept it. And we move on. Often as different people, usually a little wiser, usually a little stronger, and often heartbroken. (At least for a time.)
In conclusion, I also like to consider the possibility of having soul mates who are just friends. Friends are sometimes just as close to us as anyone, and are occasionally capable of providing that same deep connection.
Either way, it is clear that such a connection as soul mates requires cultivation, it won't necessarily spring up on its own. It takes a little bit of work.
I think that, at least for now, I'll keep believing in soul mates. I'm not really sure why, but...who knows?
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