During my entire life, I've been a medium sized girl with a little bit extra in the butt. I've done a ton of sports and when I get to my fittest, I'm at about a size 5 or 7 jeans, though still with a huge butt. I went through a stage where I was over 170 lbs and I'm short-ish at a height of 5'4"...since then I've gotten down to 145 lbs and I'm a size 8 or 9.
I know that I'm still changing physically, but guys, is that considered "big"? Is having a big butt bad???
What are acceptable ways of asking someone out? I mean, I want to ask someone out that I know, but the only means of communication with her that I have until going back to school is through instant messenger. I have had people tell me that that is a cowardly way to ask, but I don't have any other way. Is instant messenger acceptable?
Does anybody know whether there is another way to contact Rexwork besides e-mail? I'm finding that method of contact to be unreliable and yet my issue is one I REALLY want resolved. Something like a phone number would be FAR better than mere e-mailing. If anybody is familiar with an alternative contact method, please let me know. Thanks!
I have a boyfriend but there is this guy i really like and im kinda with both i dont kno what to do. but the guy i like hit me and my friends hate him. but i really like him alot>>>> help.
to get right down to it im a mess. im in my 20s and im intersexed. i have had to deal with 2 personalities since i was a child and was diagnosed did (dissociative identity disorder) a few years ago. there is a very distinct male inside me and a very distinct female. my memories are so scattered i never know who i am or if what i remember are my own memories. i am always lost and i never really want to be found. i lived most of my life male. he would rape me in my mind and lock me up. most of my memories are of being in a dark place scratching at a wall screaming to be let out. i still go there sometimes against my will. for the most part though i am in control and have been since i started therapy. i had to stop going though. i cannot afford it anymore. im starting to fall apart again.
i also came out to my friends and family as transsexual too ashamed to admit i am intersexed. being in control now as the female personality i want to be me, not him. and its so hard. he really sabotaged me and my body. he made sure if i ever got control it would take so much work to fix what he did that it would make me weak and he was right. the blackouts happen so much more often now. and i just have to deal with so much pain. i get to remember someone else living my life and i have to figure out how to let go of the fact that i will never be able to go back and live all those missing years. i have to find a way to deal with the fact that one day i might be locked up again and hopefully i can sabotage him enough to regain control while he is weak.
the hardest part of it all is how insanely alone i am. all of my friends left me when they found out that i am bigendered. my girlfriend left me. my best friend abandoned me. most of my family will not speak to me. none of them know of me being intersexed or did. my parents kept it a secret and still refuse to say anything about it. i feel like i should just tell everyone that i have breasts and that i binded most of my life to fit the male role that suited the dominant personality.
the fact that i know i will never be loved is what really gets me. the fact that i am going to be alone forever and die alone. who would want someone physically/emotionally/mentally screwed? i am just so broken beyond repair. i cannot hold onto friends. i cannot hold onto a job. i tried moving out and failed at it. im too unstable. i have to move back home with my mom. how pathetic is that.
so yea. what do i do with all of this? how do i deal with it? the only people who admit to caring about me are people who i know online who dont know bout my issues. and i know as soon as they find out they would leave me. how do i live like this? should i even go on living? i mean seriously what would you do in my shoes?
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