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My boyfriend and I have this disagreement about how we manage our won money (well, i least i'm the one who disgrees with how he manages his money) Anyway, we live together in a one bedroom apartment. The bills are easy to manage since we don't have too many bills to pay. But he prefers to pay the rent on the 4th instead of by the 1st of the month. I first i didn't say anythng because i thought it was just one month he was late with paying the rent. Than I looked at the the cable, pg&e, and cell bills and they're all paid late. So i'm trying to understand his method of budget as we're going through our finances and i just don't get it. Finally he admitted to me he didn't want to ask for help. I don't understand why he wouldn't ask for help if he was struggling with the bills. I mean, we both have jobs and we both get paid well. But he insisted he pay for everything while i took care of the groceries, laundry, and whatever necessites we needed to up keep our home. i thought this was odd but i agreed if only he would agree to informing me about needing help with any of the bills for the apartment. So i thought it was a done deal and to find out that he's been doing this for the past 3 months has really bent me out of shape. Because i look at it like wasted money on interest or late fees. We could be using that excess dollar amount towards something else. Do you see where i'm getting at? what if i didn't notice this for a whole year? or even longer than a year? We'd be in big trouble over something we can prevent now.
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Anonymous Coward says ...
I am an Anonymous Coward and I want to say ...

I see your problem, and he does have a problem. The problem is, you're both young, and young guys don't know much about managing money. Sit him down, and together, work out a simple budget. Write down each of the usual bills that have to be paid every month, regardless. Decide how much you can jointly afford to salt away in an emergency saving account. Oh, BTW, a joint account for an unmarried couple is a bad idea. One break-up, and the first one to the bank wins the lottery, and there's not mcuh you can do about it! So scrap the idea of a joint emergency fund.
But DO agree on who is going to pay what, and when. Write it out!
Then, on the 30th of each month, sit down together and prepare the checks for rent, utilities, etc. Make it a joint responsibility to check to see that the other has remembered to turn in the checks. Leave nothing to " I thought he was. . ."
Money-management for unmarried coules is especially difficult because ther is still this "my money- his money" issue. That can be cured by a simple wedding.
Most communities have a "credit counseling" non-profit where you cn get advice that will keep you out of the "bad credit" situation. Use it.

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