Hey...

All is not lost. There are lots of sites where you can meet nice, normal women who want some action. However! You said that you wife told you that she doesn't "give a ****" if you have sex on the side BUT ask her to write that down (just in case it becomes
a matter in your divorce case later.)

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Hey, I'm 22 and have been married for 4 years now. got married when i was 18. And I know where you are coming from. I've been unhappy in my marriage but feel as tho its my job to stick with it. I feel so much resent ment towards him that it out weights the good stuff. We are more friends now than anything. But still I know what you are going through, But looking for someone while you are married isnt the answer. What are you going to do if you find that perfect person and you are still married? it would be unfair to the person you found. I know the loneliness, the wanting more romance the thrill and the passion. Yeah i know how it feels to want that and feeling as tho you will never get it. My husband was the first person i was with and i love him deeply for that. But still. Anyways If you need to talk just let me know, I'd be more than happy to talk to you about this. Just leave a comment on here and i'll let you know how to get ahold of me. You just might need someone to talk to about this. I'll listen if you need someone. anyways good luck in all that you do and i hope it all works out for the best.

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i have one word for u mate DIVORCE
there is no one stopping u and if u really do annoy each other 24/7 it will b what she wants 2 just think twice before settling again

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Wow...I am completely impressed! You're thorough essay was swamped in both good vocabulary and excellent grammar! Despite the occasional slip-up, (Hey, no ones perfect, right?) this was an interesting and pleasant read. I commend you, sir, and all you other fiends of the internet, take notice. Anyways, as far as advice goes...we live in a survival of the fittest society, man. You want that *****? You go get that *****. You want that true love? You go get that true love. Don't be bothered by what you or your wife thinks she wants, she'll make it without you and you'll make it without her. An honest, hard-working guy such as yourself deserves all the ***** he can get so...GO GET THAT *****!

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I don't think it's a matter of just sex. I think you need to get out of the relationship because of your sanity. You must be true to yourself as well as her. You are not a failure for realizing it isn't going to work anymore and that you are not happy with each other. You would be a failure if you stayed in a loveless and sad marriage. Each person we meet in lifes journey is there for a reason. She has taught you alot about a realtionship and you her. You have grown and now it is time to move on. Simple as that. Life is one big classroom. You have graduated to the next level. Thank her for a wonderful time and go to the next level. The sky is the limit. Good Luck.

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Just wanted to thank everyone who commented on my little confession. Felt good to get it out. Everyone was especially helpful and thoughful - thanks guys!

One person seems to be in a similar situation - if you want to write I'd be happy to offer my thoughts or just chat - torontoguy55 (at) gmail.com.

Cheers ... wish me luck!

be honest with yourself. You are not happy, and it sounds like she isn't either. Quit doing this to yourselves and get divorced. there is nothing keeping you there. Just move on. Why stay miserable for the next 50 years when you can leave now and you can both find something or someone that truely makes you happy?

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life isnt always greener on the other side but if your wife takes care of you the way you say she does then she deserves the truth...dont be an ******* and try to find someone on the side. be a man and either try to work out your marriage or get out. shes given you a lot over the years and deserves a guy who loves her and is faithful to her...so if your unhappy then get out. your young you have time. just give her the respect she obviously gives you

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I told my wife how I feel. She says she doesn't give a **** if I cheat, although I know she does. She wants us to stay together (as do I in my heart), but acknowledges that we aren't happy - but doesn't want to go to counselling and doesn't know how to fix our marriage. I've been mostly honest with her - and have definitely been honest about my feelings & plans.

As much as I'd love to find someone on the side, it would definitely be the beginning of the end if I did find that person. My wife encourages me to sleep with other women - but she doesn't get that it isn't just the sex that I'm looking for (found that out the hard way).

So - guess I'll just wait around until I feel like looking for an apartment...

You are describing what most men experience at some point in their married lives. No relationship is just thrills and excitement all the time. Any good marriage takes WORK and SACRIFICE.

Like most good things, it doesn't come cheap and leaving is the easy option. If you can decide to love her despite her behaviour and all the other things you don't like, she will pick up on it.

Start treating her like your Queen, irrespective of how she behaves. Forgo the sex for now, there will be plenty of time to catch up. JUST LOVE HER UNCONDITIONALLY. The grass on the other side is greener because there is a lot more manure there...

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Instead of being on here and talking about how you would like your life to be just go and do it why the hell are you just sitting here and not doing what makes you happy. Everyone deserves to be happy so I say go for it.

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Another follow-up ...

No sex for over four months now, and splitting up seemed like a sure thing until about two weeks ago. She's starting to show some emotion (warm touch, friendly smile, etc.). I must not yield - I need to leave. This **** won't work out. I'll just waste more time - we'll fall back into our destructive unhealthy relationship - I know it. We're still in love though ... and terribly used to each other's habits.

It's (to some extent) like trying to drag yourself up from watching a bad TV show - you hate watching the show, but you're too lazy to get up / don't know how. The difference is after a few more mins., you eventually get your *** in gear and put down the potato chips ... I'm not sure if this will be so easy.

was wondering where you live and what you look like i love to have sex how can i get in touch with you ??

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