You have done well to stay away right now. Getting back into that mess of dating would have kept your self esteem down. It's good that you stayed away and you should for a while. Sometimes fear is good, people don't realize that but fear is meant to keep you from getting hurt, that's why most people fear heights, so they don't fall off. In the same way you might be fearing relationships right now cuz they will only do you harm. In time you will be ready and will have no fear. Until then try hanging out with friends and making new ones so that you can still have fun. And then later you will have your candidate picked out that you want to date. People have been pushing you around for too long. You have to end that before you go out dating again. Good luck <^>

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Would like to congrat u for leaving those relationships. The hardest part is over. My advice to you would be to see a therapist every now and then. Sometimes just having friends to talk to isn't enough b/c u always have to worry about them judging u all the time. Talking to a therapist i think would help b/c u would get an unbiased opinion and have someone to talk to about things u just cant talk to about w friends. The other thing would be not to lean on friends during this time of pain, try to be more independent and learn to lean on yourself and not friends as much so that way u can make better decisions about relationships. Becoming independent is hard to do but then u won't find yourself in those relationships that are not beneficial to u b/c u won't feel like u need to be in a relationship just to be happy b/c u know what its like to live by yourself and can be content with that. Learning to like yourself and realizing that u can live alone (if needed) is important so u aren't in a realtionship just to be in one. Hope this helps and hopefully it makes sense.

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first off i wanna congradulate you for leaving all those relationships theres been cases were girls are too scared to leave the relationships.. well maybe u should just stay away from relationships for a while.. when you think you are strong enough and confident enough.. and your self asteem is high and you love your self then thast when youll be ready to let sopme one else in and show that they love you.. trust me there is a right guy out there for you and u will find him!=]

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be single and mingle for a while, sit back and observe the oppisite sex, they are strange creatures.

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